DO or DIE!

Do you expect someone to take care of you when you find it difficult on your own? Do you know who that person will be? There are many who promise to stay around, hold your hand, lead you through when you cannot find your way. But do you really think they will do it when the time arrives? I know that if there is anyone whom I can always call on such occasions, who would come around and do it, it would only be my dad.. No wonder I always list out people who are similar to him in their personalities - the ones who value their word, the ones who would give in their possible best, the ones who never stop doing things, as they know, the way to live is to 'do, or die'.

After 35 yrs of experience with people, I've finally arrived at these conclusions. There are only 2 types of people on earth. The ones who would do things, others who won't. Among type 1, there are a few very special ones who could take care of their stuff and also take care of a few others (some on need base, others out of habit). I want to be the one who can take care of myself as well as a few needy (kids at this point, parents when they are older, others who have to be under my care.. as life decides)  I generally type cast people almost instantly into the two main categories, those who would do, those who wouldn't do - irrespective of their age and capacity! My respect goes to the doers, and that's my only yard-stick of measuring a person. This trait is easily distinguishable in children, adults and elderly. I wish my kids imbibe this quality.

In an attempt to avoid work, people huff, puff, vent out, fall sick and do everything possible, other than work.  If these wasted energies are put into productive channels successfully bound by habit, whether one achieves success or not doesnt matter. Because success is not something that is to be assessed at the end of a day, it probably takes a life-time. But the effort, most surely is counted at the end of each passing day, right when you lie down to sleep! I realize the reason for most human miseries is the attempt to avoid work.  It could be either one person who doesn't do what it takes, or it could be someone who tries to get work done through someone else! I have mostly been the hard working type, and realized in the year 2005, that it is better to die of work, than to die of no work! This is what kept ringing in my ears all these years - "Let me do it! Let me not shy away!". That left me with no time to complain.

Under the weather

Feeling a bit under the weather, bad cold and heavy head! Gone weeks have been intense. Be it joy and satisfaction, pain and disappointment. Birdie is not around and that's difficult beyond words. Sent her away from me only because it was the right thing to do, from all angles. Work has been slow and difficult. Couldn't meet the timeline for the first time. Nowhere close to a draft report whereas the aim was to wind up presentation by 9 May! Hence the date extended to June 7, with the draft submission on 20 June. Statistical analysis is the need of the hour and not exactly my cup of tea. Get jittery with numbers. The Diabetes is taking a toll. It stabilized about 10 days back, by further reducing carb intake. Felt weak during the diet adjustment period and spikes in the glucose levels made me crazy. If it wasn't for the 'yet to be born', I doubt whether I would've ever done such a severe diet! Lost 3 kgs in 3 weeks and was alarmed about the same! Worried about Ketones in the blood due to low carb, low calorie intake. Worried about fetal well-being! Finally confirmed in the ultrasound scan two days back that the weight loss has not impacted fetal growth. Now need to confirm about Ketones before I clear all doubts in my head! Did I stretch too much, overdo? Did I make right decisions? I wish someone told me the things I want to hear, gave me the courage I lack!

Baker: Needs no Introduction

“Our modern, advanced scientific minds should know how to assess the merits and demerits of historical and factual evidence of the way people who have lived in a particular setting and climate, have coped with the problems which are still inevitably ours today. To brush aside all this demonstration and evidence as old-fashioned and therefore useless, is extremely foolish. Having made our assessment we would show ourselves capable of adopting the lessons we have learned (negative or positive, they are of equal importance) to our current living habits and the currently available building materials at our disposal. Along with this we should remind ourselves that it is not 'Advancement' or 'Development' or 'Progress' to indulge in modern building materials and techniques at tremendous expenses and to no good effect when there is no justification or reason for their use, instead of older, simpler, inexpensive methods.”

L.Baker

(Needs no introduction, not in my blog)

Parenting is no casual affair!

It is easier to build up a child than to repair an adult.

One gets just a single chance to parenting a child. So one should make the best efforts. For me, parenting is never a casual affair. Jotting it down just for record purpose.